Monday, March 21, 2005

Knock, knock....Who's there?....Date....Date who?

Women of the world (er...CSC): Here's your opportunity to let men know what we believe constitutes a date. Thomas over at Catholicae Testudines tells us that, apparently, they spend time discussing this. Maybe actual dates will result from this little endeavor. Comments from men are much appreciated.

Here are some of my general criteria (note that these apply to most - but not all - dates):

1) The man asks. Yes, I know, we're living in the 21st century and women can perfectly well ask men on dates. But trust me, women will feel much more secure about a man's interest in her if the man does the asking.
2) Request is made over the phone or in person. Very good, strong, lengthy dating relationships can come out of requests made over e-mail or IM (I know this from personal experience). But it's hard to catch tone and interest through those two mediums. Women love men's voices and really, really want to hear the question from their own lips. Plus, it assures women that men have mustered enough strength to actually speak. In person is always preferred, but over the phone is acceptable.
3) Request includes a specific time and place on a specific date. A generic "Do you wanna go out some time?" is not good enough for most women. We will talk ourselves out of believing that men really want to go on dates if a question is that broad. After all, if you really want to take us out, you'd have thought about specifics, wouldn't you?
4) Request implies that the man's feelings are of a romantic nature. You know, be cute. Most of you guys have this down without knowing it, but you can try extra hard.
5) Double/group dates are great, but at least 1/3 of time must be spent talking with your own date. Sooner or later, if you're actually interested in someone, you're going to need to TALK to them. Sooner is always better than later as it will be easier on you both to know if you want to go on a 2nd or 3rd date and it won't prolong things if they're not meant to work out.
6) Man pays and is generally chivalrous. The general rule is that whoever asks, pays and per criteria #1, this should be obvious. I suggest men do most of the paying until you're officially boyfriend and girlfriend (after that women should pay every once in a while). The men can always be creative on dates so they don't have to spend tons of money (plus women like that you've put so much thought into it). And women should always offer to pay for a part of the date (the movie or dessert, say) and women are always welcome to make dinner, etc.